The Almost There Phase: Why the New Moon Feels So Intense Right Before Everything Changes

There is a very specific kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from doing too much. It comes from waiting. Not passive waiting, not lazy waiting, not “I’ll get to it later” waiting. I’m talking about the kind of waiting where you’ve already done the work. You’ve shown up. You’ve cried, pushed, pivoted, rebuilt, and kept going when it made absolutely no sense to keep going… and you’re still standing in the space of:

“Okay… where is it?”

That’s where I am right now. Tired, but hopeful. Clearer, but still overwhelmed. Feeling like something is about to shift in a big, life-changing way… and yet, physically, nothing has quite landed yet. Like… hello? Where is the good part?

Why This Feels So Intense Right Now (It’s Not Just You in the Almost There Phase)

The New Moon isn’t something we just moved through. It’s happening tonight — March 18 at 9:23 PM Eastern Time. Which means right now? We are sitting right up against it. Now, factually, here’s what a New Moon actually is: It’s the moment when the Moon is positioned between the Earth and the Sun, making it invisible from our perspective.

No light. No visibility. No proof that anything is happening.

And yet—that exact moment marks the beginning of a brand new lunar cycle. And if that doesn’t perfectly describe the almost there phase of life… I don’t know what does.

The Part No One Talks About: You Can Feel It Before You See It

This is the part that messes with your head if you’re not grounded. Because you can feel that something is about to change. Deeply. Almost like it already happened somewhere else and just hasn’t caught up to your physical reality yet. I feel like I have multiple things—big, life-shifting things—on the verge of happening. Not in a delusional way. In a knowing way. And yet… if I look around? Crickets. Which is where the internal dialogue kicks in:

“Hello?? Are people lost?” “Do they need directions?” “Is there a GPS issue I’m unaware of?”

A Quick Story About When Everything Looked Like It Was Falling Apart (But Wasn’t)

This actually reminds me of something that happened during my wedding. We had this beautiful destination wedding planned. Everything was booked, organized, timed. And then—of course—there was a problem with our flights. We had to leave five days earlier than planned, in peak summer, when hotels were either nonexistent or priced like they came with a private yacht. So we pivoted. Stayed near the airport the first night. Met with vendors the next day. And then somehow—last minute—found a deal at a beautiful resort overlooking the water, meals included. We went from:

“Are we even going to make it to our own wedding?” to “Wait… are we casually on vacation right now before our wedding?”

Life didn’t fall apart. It rearranged. And it ended up better than the original plan.

The Small Signs That Quietly Change Everything

Progress doesn’t always show up the way you expect it to. It shows up quietly. Like a message from a stranger saying:

“I found your blog and I finally feel seen.”

That message? That’s everything. That is why I show up every single day—even when I’m exhausted, overwhelmed, or questioning everything. Or a genuinely kind client reaching out. Or my daughter—less than two—seeing me cry, running over with a tissue and saying:

“Sad mama… sad.”

And hugging me. That is success. Not the version we were sold. The real one.

Why the Almost There Phase Feels So Hard

Because this is the phase where you are asked to trust without evidence. To keep going without validation. To believe something is working when you cannot yet see the result. It’s exhausting. It’s frustrating. And if we’re being honest, it can make you feel a little unhinged. Like…

“Am I crazy? Or is something actually happening?”

(Answer: something is happening.)

A New Moon Practice (Because Honestly… I’ve Never Had One Either)

I’ll be honest—I’ve never really been a serious new moon or full moon ritual person. But something about this moment feels different.

So let’s keep this simple. Real. No performance.

1. Say the truth (out loud): “I’m tired.” “I’m close.” “I don’t know when this will happen, but I feel it.”

2. Write one thing you’re releasing: Old timelines. Pressure. Comparison. Control.

3. Write one thing you’re allowing: Not forcing. Not chasing. Allowing.

4. Sit for one minute: No phone. No distractions. Just breathe.

The Truth About This Moment

It is always darkest before dawn. Not as a cliché—but as a pattern. This New Moon is the literal embodiment of that. Complete darkness. Right before the light returns. As Martin Luther King Jr. so powerfully said:

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that."

Final Thought: You’re Not Crazy. You’re Close.

If you feel like you’re standing on the edge of something… If you feel exhausted but also quietly hopeful… If your old life doesn’t fit, but your new life hasn’t fully arrived…

You are not behind. You are not stuck. You are not doing it wrong.

You are in the moment right before things begin to take shape. And no—this part isn’t glamorous. It’s not the highlight reel. It’s the scene right before everything shifts.

And something is already beginning—even if you can’t see it yet. ❤️

About the Author | Day 77

On Day 77 of this 365-day journey, I am standing in the in-between—learning how to trust what I feel before I can see it. My work is rooted in somatic healing, honest storytelling, and the belief that life doesn’t unfold on our timelines—it unfolds on the ones that actually change us. If you are here, in your own “almost there” moment, I hope you take this with you:

You’re not stuck. You’re not behind. You’re closer than you think.